Swag/sexy = Confidence

Ah! My favourite topic – relationships...

So you always hear ladies saying they want a guy with swagger and men saying they want a lady who is sexy but I’ve come to the realization that what we (as in both guys and girls) are really saying is that we want someone with confidence. 

Guys argue that girls just want the bad boy type and how the nice guys always finish last but I can assure you that a bad boy is not what a girl wants.  On the flip side, girls argue that all guys want are video vixens I have a feeling that that is not what guys want either at least not long term.

If you look at the definition of swagger according to dictionary.com it is to walk or strut with a defiant or insolent (boldly rude or disrespectful) air.  Ladies, is that what we really want?

There are a few definitions of sexy according to the same reference.  The second definition mentioned sexy to mean to be sexually interesting or exciting; however, the first definition defined sexy to be concerned predominantly or excessively with sex.  Men do you really want a sex addict? LOL (I can only imagine the response to that question)

What we really want is confidence! It is someone who believes in themselves.  It’s someone who believes that they are beautiful or handsome without being arrogant about it and doesn’t need you to reassure them. It is someone who walks with their head up and their shoulders back.  It is someone who approaches you with a smile, shakes your hand firmly and looks into your eyes during conversation. It is someone who respects themselves and doesn’t let anyone take advantage of them. It is someone who talks with the belief that the listener wants to hear what you are saying and it is someone who when you hear them talk you believe what they are saying.

So guys if you hear a girl say you are too nice...don’t try to mold yourself into the bad boy type; instead, develop the ability to stand up for yourself and don’t let anyone take advantage of your kindness by learning how to saying no.  What is more attractive than seeing someone stand up for what they believe in?

And ladies, if a guy tells you that you need to be sexier...don’t put on skimpier clothing thinking that that is sexy; instead, strengthen you belief in your beauty, hold your head up, sit up straight and keep your shoulders back.  Most importantly smile more!

What are your thoughts on this? Is what I’m saying true?


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